I am a grown adult, but I feel like I am dealing with a childish problem. I am married to a wonderful woman and we complement each other so well. We have our ups and downs, but I am a firm believer in talking things out and working through problems. Usually we see eye to eye on things, but with this particular matter we have agreed to disagree, and I need an outside opinion.

This is my first marriage, her second. There are no kids from her first marriage. They were young and incompatible. They did not have a messy divorce — her husband just gave up and walked away.

Several years ago, when we first got together, there was some tension between myself and the ex-husband. We have never spoken in real life but have had some interaction over social media. My wife currently works for her ex’s family so they all have remained somewhat close. Everyone but the ex has welcomed me into her life. He has made it clear he does not want any type of interaction or communication with me, which is fine. My problem is that he still interacts with her family, and they all allow it. They post pictures and he will make comments, unless I am in the picture.

I have mentioned this to my wife and she tells me I am acting paranoid, or says I should just ignore it. Ultimately it is driving a wedge between us because I do not want to ask her family to stop interacting with him, but I also do not want him to be able to check up on us, which is what essentially is happening. I feel like the only solution is to give up social media, or at least block her family, but I feel like that will cause more problems. I have brought this up to my wife and her family in person and they all disregard what I am saying and let this all continue. What would you do in my situation?

-SociallyDisconnected