A.Please reconsider making any future plans with this man. You sound like you can’t imagine better for yourself, but being alone with your kids would be healthier. Read these three sentences again and believe them:
“I feel like I will always need to watch my back. My kids do not like him. I don’t really feel safe.”
Those are reasons to break up, not to get married.
I recommend ending this relationship – but that process can start with therapy. It doesn’t seem like you’ve healed from past relationships or had time to figure out what’s happened here. You have children and a property to deal with, but so much of therapy is online now. Sometimes you can negotiate rates. Please do not rule it out as an inaccessible service before you get more information. Start by asking your insurance company about what’s covered. Make an appointment.
That professional can help you through next steps as you figure out what you need. The plan might involve enlisting loved ones – people you really trust – to help. Maybe you’ll want someone to stay with you for a while.
Also, change every password to every account. Protect yourself during this process.
You ask if people can change. My answer is yes, sometimes. But I say that thinking of you.
You can get to a place where your daily life makes you feel safe and consistently happy. Once you’re on your way to that, it’ll be easier to choose a partner who complements who you at your best.
This isn’t just for you. Your kids need this too.
– Meredith
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