Meeting offline is difficult these days. People have been trained to use apps, which means that approaching a stranger in a public place can feel bold and scary. Some might be concerned about interrupting a person’s evening. It’s no longer the standard way to find love.

That leaves the apps, and yes, it’s frustrating, and a lot of people ghost. I wish I had a magic way of dealing with that disappointment. It might help to ask for a FaceTime as a mini-date before you make in-person plans. If someone can’t do that pretty quickly, you’ll know that even a small effort was too big.

I recommend clubs, teams, and activities when people have dating fatigue. Running clubs, volunteer work, movie and book clubs. It’s not that I think people are going to find love there, although that does happen. It’s more that a club – some activity with ongoing responsibilities and events – can broaden your circle and give you multiple opportunities for someone to get to know you.

Clubs offer a natural way to be seen over time. It seems like that’s what you need. Instead of putting all your effort into looking for a partner, spend some time growing your community. If you love an activity, pursue it around others. You’ll find people with similar priorities. After that, good things might happen.

– Meredith

Readers? Are you meeting people offline? If so, how?