“We both agree that nothing like this has ever happened to us in our lifetime.”

That’s a pretty big deal, right? If you can swing it financially, try spending few weeks where one of you lives to see how it feels to be together all the time. Maybe it’ll be so wonderful that bigger decisions will be easier to make.

Grandkids are so important, but so is love. The tone of your letter makes it clear that you don’t want to let this go to keep the status quo.

The leap of faith can be small. It can start with an extended trip – from weeks to months. You can try being in both places, one at a time, to get a sense of what you’re missing. Create a financial plan together so you know what the experiment will cost. (Would the visiting person contribute to household expenses? Would they rent out their place at home?) After these trips, assess feelings. Maybe moving will be a no-brainer at that point, or maybe you’ll be out of love and ready to go back to the way things were. (For the record, I’m rooting for things to stay great.)

The question isn’t, “Should I drop my entire life for this relationship?” It’s about what changes you can make to get the best of everything.

– Meredith

Readers? Is it all or nothing? What should happen next?