First of all, I am a bit of a strange guy when it comes to relationships with women. I have always prioritized friendship over sex. I genuinely like that the company of women and have a lot of fun. If something more were to come up, that may be a plus. I’ve had exes and flings as friends for years; I really DO appreciate good friendship and good company.

For the first time, though, I have been taken aback and left in the dark. I was sort of friends with a woman. We had a great time when she stayed over (spare room). A lovely time, although there were some moments of tension – almost reminiscent of my teenage years. She has a boyfriend and I respected that. I kept some physical distance, although I guess we “flirted” a bit with eye contact. We got along great and she wanted to make plans to visit me again.

Then I made the silly mistake of writing to her that we have a connection of sorts. I don’ t know why I said it, and I never to imply we’d have a romantic relationship, but then she asked me to clarify what I meant. I was taken aback and said I have no underlining meaning. She did not like that at all.

I tried to be honest – that it seemed we were connecting (honestly, I felt this more on her end), but she said it did not mean anything more to her. The conversation killed it. She stopped texting. About a month or so later I finally called, and she quickly picked up, and I nervously apologized for the “misunderstanding.” She said she was not angry but asked for more clarification – again. I ended up repeating that same thing. Then she said that even though we have a special connection, I misunderstood her intentions. I could sense dread on the phone. Sometime later she replied that she was not mad, but “just busy” and that was that.

I have asked some of my female friends and they say what I had written was nice, so for the first time I truly don’t understand anything. Wonder what I did so wrong and what was so “weird.”

– Weird